Don’t be that “In a minute mum”
How often do you think you have said to your children, “in a minute”?
The phrase we use when we are contemplating making a cup of tea but haven’t yet. The phrase we use when we are washing, doing the dishes and sitting on our devices checking, Instagram, Facebook, emails or flipping from app to app.
When my son Riley was little, I too often used this phrase to prevent spending time dusting the sand off from the sand pit or dragging the paint out and making a mess that I would be left to clean up. As the years went on I realised I didn’t know my son, I had not spent time with him to get to know him. We didn’t communicate. Our communication was him crying for my time and I was in a minute mode. My memories of his younger years are full of in minute moments, not making memory moments. As a parent, I now harness the guilt of those lost moments, those lost minutes I will never get back.
I have learned not too wish those milestones and moments away but embrace them with the appreciation of “Here, Now”. Admiring my little ones and encircling the moments of sensory play. Making a mess that we will clean up together after creating magic moments and magic minutes together.
I now drop the dish cloth and say let’s go! Even if you try to reframe from saying “in a minute” just once a day, you will find yourself connecting and communicating more with your child than you did the day before. Spending time with your children opens up the world of discussion, communication, laughter, and special moments of pure joy and love.
Don’t be that in a minute mum,
You will never get that minute or moment back.
A great way to open the door to communication with you and your children is sit together and create a colourful and creative page of 100 things you are grateful for.
I have done this with my daughter and we spent hours laughing, colouring, talking and getting to know one another better than we had before.
Much love to you all xx